,stop video, restart, sound stops, flash crashes

[mgason]

Hi
I have a video made with sorenson squeeze pro. exported from squeeze as swf. It is 8meg.
It succesfully loads into my empty mc (holder), and starts to play.
running in test movie mode...
If I let it go it cruises along happily.

I then added a pause/play button.
nothing more complex than

on (release) {
_parent.holder.stop();
this.gotoAndStop("play");
}
on (release) {
this.gotoAndStop("pause");
_parent.holder.play(); 
}

when I stop the video and start it again the sound is gone. Sometimes it comes back if you pause and start the video a couple of times, BUT most likely is that after yo stop and start 2 or 3 times Flash totally crashes and shuts itself down, big fatal error message

I did make sure I wasnt just pounding on the buttons. I waited 5 to 10 seconds each time I hit pause or play

***** some new info added
I tried the file at work, much faster computer reading from the web in a browser. Again played fine. Audio occasionally failed to come back after a pause.

tried pausing and playing video.
first time after 3rd pause/play the entire swf vanished from the browser.
the WHOLE swf dissapears not just teh video one I loaded in.
I cant have the whole site vanish if a video makes trouble!!
next time after the 20th pause/play it crashed?
file is here
http://www.frampton.com/now/loader.html
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more info still need HELP!!!! DESPERATELY
I have reduced the framerate to 10fps, using small preset in sorenson squeeze to export to swf. turned my data rate down to 96k, and used 8 bit mono sound.
file size now 4 meg.
It still crashes the flash player if you pause and start a few times
whats up?
mark