Big changes in spouse/roommate/sig. other??

Anyone else experienced major changes in the person you live with??

I only ask because my wife has become a different person...Her personality is the same, but, when I met her six years ago, she was a smoker, buried in debt, hated cooking, hardly ate, and when she did, it was Banquet chicken & fast food, and I NEVER saw her exercise...

I, on the other hand, was extremely active, loved cooking and ate pretty healthy, lots of pasta & veggies, mainly.

When we got married, she did most of the cooking only because she worked from home and I didn't get home until 6ish. Consequently, my diet slowly filled with pizza, fried chicken and unusual "casserole" dishes.

Three years ago, when she got pregnant, she quit smoking and started aggressively attacking her debt. About four months ago she got on this green kick and went radically anti-plastic and got into local and organic produce...and today...well, today she bought a soy milk machine...who is this woman??

Anyway, I think it's great, I think it's wonderful for the kids and I was just wondering if there were other FK'ers out there who have experienced the same sort of radical changes??

Thanks!!

Edit: Oh yeah, and now she walks everyday, rollerblades when it's warm enough and told me the other day she want to join the climbing gym and buy a bike!!

sounds like the baby has changed her perspective on her priorities. There's nothing better than seeing someone change themselves for the better without force from outside parties.

my wife is kinda going through the same things. not with the health kick, but she's been doing a bunch more around the house since we've been married which leaves me time to do my own work (freelance, house maintenance). I think it's because she finally found a job that she likes enough to not come home dragging a$$ after horrid days in the office.

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Originally Posted by flashpipe1

Her personality is the same, but, when I met her six years ago, she was a smoker, buried in debt, hated cooking, hardly ate, and when she did, it was Banquet chicken & fast food, and I NEVER saw her exercise...

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I can see why ya married her. :p
You've got a rare case there my friend. I've only had the opposit where they start out all nice and adjusted then downgrade into self centered psycho, disappear only to turn up on the internet... and not in a good way. :)

Just be glad you guys don't live in a city like vegas that thrives on addictive personalities and irresponsibility.

My gf is a plain jane. She likes fast food and easy to make simple 2 ingredient meals. When we go out she always just gets steak and pasta with butter on it, or grilled cheese, or salad with NO dressing(bleh) and stuff like that. I on the other hand make 6 meals combined into one. I love pizza with everything imaginable on it etc etc. I am hoping to break her into new foods etc but she is still putting up a good fight.

my girlfriend changes her mind on what she wants to be alot.

... My personalities keep chaining.
Does that count?

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Originally Posted by WannaBe_80z

I am hoping to break her into new foods etc but she is still putting up a good fight.

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Have a couple of cooking dates where you guys find something crazy neither of you have made before. There's something about your own creations that raise your desire to eat it.

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Originally Posted by Natsia

... My personalities keep chaining.
Does that count?

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In that case I've watch my other personality cover the spectrum.

I can tell by your avatar Nats... ;)

Sounds like there's lots of change going on out there...I was always trying (very gently and subtlely) to convince her to eat healthy, exercise, etc. but she never saw the appeal until the kids came along...of course, that brings a whole new set of changes as well (more anal about being clean, organized, planning time, etc.), that don't always jive with my easy-going, relaxed attitude, but I suppose you have to take the good with the bad, and I've certainly made my own changes to accommodate our new "situation."

:)

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where they start out all nice and adjusted then downgrade into self centered psycho, disappear only to turn up on the internet... and not in a good way.

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Interesting jAQUAN, when I met her (online), she was unhappily married (separated) and neither of us were looking for anything serious...

Flash, my parents went through the same thing.

I am also noticing the same deal with my girlfriend.

I think that you are right that it comes from priorities and level of committment to things. If there is a need (or perceived need) to change, then things will happen if they commit to it. For instance, if you get told that if you keep eating butter you will die, but if not then you wont... Well I don't know how many among us would be stubborn enough to keep eating the butter.

In the same sense, I'm sure your wife realizes that the healthy lifestyle is beneficial in so many different ways both to her and your health, but those of your children as well. Definitely good that she has realized this and started to change.

More beneficial still that she did it of her own accord, without any (real) pressure or insinuation from you.

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Originally Posted by Natsia

... My personalities keep chaining...

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so does your spelling... ;)

I need to get more motivated. I need to get exercising and putting together photo galleries...

I am wasting my summer away and only one more year of school.

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Originally Posted by WannaBe_80z

I am wasting my summer away and only one more year of school.

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Mmmm... I can't wait for school to start. So much more time on my hands to do things. The whole 9-5 is not entertaining.

I can't wait for school either. It's sad but I'm bored.

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Originally Posted by DaVulf

Mmmm... I can't wait for school to start. So much more time on my hands to do things. The whole 9-5 is not entertaining.

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school will give you more free time? or you currently have free time?

School gives you free time, jobs suck away your soul slowly.

I wish I was back in school. *sniff*

Like Eleniatari says. School is what? A few hours a day versus the 9-5 of full-time work (when staying late/coming in early isn't required). I much prefer that.

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Originally Posted by WannaBe_80z

I can't wait for school either. It's sad but I'm bored.

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Yeah, because you're sitting on the damn computer all the time!! ;)

You're sitting there with a Hunter S. Thomson character image as your avatar, and saying you're bored??

I don't get these guys that are bored at such a young age, do you realise how much there is out in the world, even just the next town? Have you been to the next town?

I know: read this: http://www.amazon.com/Road-Jack-Kerouac/dp/0140042598

Then just walk out your door and go... somewhere, anywhere, just... go. Tell you parents you'll see them in a few weeks. Just go...................

;)

If I was financially set to just get up and go. I wouldn't be on here. Don't get me wrong almost every weekend when I see my gf either here at my house or hers we go off to a new place and explore but alone here mon-fri is bleh.

shhh I am actually AT work right now.

Pffft! Money!? Who needs that??

Read the book, you'll see.

;)

I need money for the things I am tied to right now. If I was debt free and nothing needed to be paid for I would be gone in a heart beat. I regret everyday that I didn't hitch hike to cali my summer between HS and college when I had NO cares in the world and no debt...:(