Asking a set of interweb dweebs for advice on dating strikes me as somewhat ironic.
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Asking a set of interweb dweebs for advice on dating strikes me as somewhat ironic.
hahahahahaQuote:
Originally Posted by swampy
Lol, you may not know it, but you actually did. You can't/won't answer the question because it's not in your best interest to admit that you do actually take comfort in the presence of a 'dominant' male. :)Quote:
Originally Posted by carly1979
I'll clarify more fully that when I say 'dominate' or something similar I am in no way referring to the act of forcing your will upon another for personal pleasure or gain. I speak of taking the initiative in a situation instead of waiting for others to tell you what to do, of standing up for what you believe in and what is right, and not being afraid to speak your true mind in the face of opposing opinions. So perhaps it would be more accurate and appropriate to say that being a man requires one to not so much dominate, but initiate. It's all a matter of perception, really.
And yes, this does carry over into the bedroom. Do you want a guy who is just going to lay there, fumble over you ineptly, expire quickly in response to your overwhelming sexuality, or perhaps even just quietly worship you...or do you want a skilled and confident lover who is capable of giving you all that you want and need both as a woman and as a person? Sensitivity with conviction. That's what it is to be a man. (that thing with the hair, though...seriously guys...try it if you haven't)
Unfortunately she's already made most of her decisions, you just aren't privvy to them. :)Quote:
Originally Posted by luvenny
Most people are going to make up their mind about whether they like you or not within the first few seconds of meeting you. This is where my statement that being a man wasn't about a single act comes into play. At this point, if she doesn't already feel an attraction towards you then you don't need to wait for anything to be projected, what you must now do is change her opinion of you, not give her a first impression. That's already been made. Be yourself...just be the best self you can be.
Yeah, that's a whole separate can of worms, there. I have an inkling that our good buddy luvenny is looking for the real thing, though. :)Quote:
Originally Posted by Jujumon
haha you couldn't get it more wrong :DQuote:
Originally Posted by RUSHVision
So you prefer the girly men, then? :)
i prefer girls full stop ;)
Lol...ok, that does change the formula a little bit. :D
AAAAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAAA :D Watching this train wreck of a thread has been brilliant :DQuote:
Originally Posted by RUSHVision
Thanks Rush :D
Lol...where do you get train wreck from? Just because Carly turned out to fall outside the scope of my generalizations concerning heterosexual women? That fact in no way invalidates anything I have said.
Hahahahahahahaaa :D
Oh my :)
haha thanks mark- can just imagine you sitting there watching and waiting :p
oh, and rush- me not being a heterosexual woman no way invalidates anything i've said either.... i wasn't specifically talking from my own point of view and my own perspective.
I'll take that to be indicative of a lack of an ability to formulate an appropriate response. :)
It's all good, Carly. There will always be exceptions to every rule. :)
Oh RUSH. You have inspired me! I am going to go into the bedroom now and give my wife some wild passionate, hair pulling, dominant manly love right now!Quote:
Originally Posted by RUSHVision
on second thought I think I'll just look at some porn. :p
Whatever works best for you, my friend. :)
I should also maybe mention just for all those lurkers who appear to be watching this thread...and yeah, I was watching the post count skyrocket, lol...I would have continued the 'debate', but doing so would have required me to delve deeper into Carly's personal sexuality and I didn't want to put her on the spot like that. Simply knowing which way she swung (which is cool) put her immediately out of sync with the women of whom I was speaking.
And yeah, I'll say again that I was speaking in general terms. There are plenty of women...literally thousands upon thousands if you look at the ratios...who will fall outside the 'norm' of which I speak.
well at least you are aware of that. and thanks for the respect man :)Quote:
Originally Posted by RUSHVision
Hehehehehehe :DQuote:
Originally Posted by admedia
Its typical... a know it all fella "thinking" he has women down... oh yes, they want to be dominated, oh yes they love a man thats in control... My god man, wake up... Your acting like the 1960s never happened!
Yes, SOME women would like to be dominated, have the alpha male beat his chest towards her... but you can't group all women into this "neiche"... I'm sure most women would respect a partner more that treats her as an equal, both in the bedroom and life in general.
It was nice to see your antiquated ideas fall down in only a few posts though :D
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Originally Posted by Markp.com
very well said.
Actually you show your naivete in believing that things have changed. :)
As much as males are hard-wired to seek willing and fertile females, females are hard-wired to be attracted to dominate males. Society has placed all kinds of faces on what is considered acceptable behavior while following these pursuits, but that aspect never has and never will change. And yes, like I said before, there are exceptions.
Now maybe you could explain to me where my 'antiquated ideas fell down'. Has evidence or even the hint of a compelling argument been presented to refute my statements? Everyone (who has been posting, anyway) seems to agree that 'some' women like to be dominated. Ok. That's pretty much what I've been saying. The only aspect lacking clarity is how you define certain terms. As far as I can tell, you are simply misinterpreting my comments. All you're getting is that I said 'women like to be dominated'. Did the entire subtle and complex part of the equation somehow escape you? Did you happen to read anything else I wrote?