ooohhhh, gotcha...nevermind then.
And about your drug/prostitute sister....yeah, there's blame there on the parents. Definitely blame.
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ooohhhh, gotcha...nevermind then.
And about your drug/prostitute sister....yeah, there's blame there on the parents. Definitely blame.
But theres 8 kids in my family, shes the only one who is like that.
I have 4 brothers 2, 4, 8 and 19. And i have 3 sisters 9, 16 and 23.
Oh and im in there somewhere too...
I think we may have found the problemQuote:
Originally Posted by CookieSnMilK
so???? One tried escaping from the pack, and while your parents weren't looking, she made a run for it...obviously, it was too much for your parent's to handle with 8 kids to get her back in line...am i wrong?
Edit: it's one thing if she started this when she moved out of the house, but at 16???????????? come on?
when you have 8 kids, there is no way you can give them all the individual attention a child needs for a healthy development.
Girls that dont get enough attention from thier fathers while groing up will seek that attention from other males.
I was 9 when I started experimenting but mine was a non-typical childhood.
My old man was a dealer so there was always a green garbage bag full of weed on the kitchen floor, a candydish of ludes on the bar and if I could sneak into his bedroom closet I could get at the suitcase that had his coke stash.
That began an extremely depressing waste of the next 20+ years worth of opportunities which I'm sorry to say is mostly a blur...
Yeah, if I had the chance I'd definitely take it all back.
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There are plenty of kids who don't get enough attention at home who lead perfectly normal productive lives without becomming a prostitute or drug addict.
Some people just make bad choices...
hey, if that were the case dont you think we would all have the same issues? My older sistr is getting married to her first boyfriend, Im with my 2nd (but dont really want to get married) I just can accept that if it were the fault of my parents (who i adore btw) why there are no issues in the rest of us.
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Some people just make bad choices...
Couldnt have said it better my self! Its the choices we make that make us who we are, not our parents, I choose not to be like my sister. She *chose* to do what she does!
LR you are definitely a case in the extreme.... I am suprised you didn't turn out more like Alex Keaton :D
But yea, it's one thing for parents to use and condone drug use in the house, it's another thing to entirely blame parents for their kids coke habit because they couldn't make it to their dance recital when they were 9...
Yea, like having 8 kidsQuote:
Originally Posted by admedia
Just because some one doesnt get the attention they need while groing up, doesnt mean that they will absolutly turn out bad, but it definately doesnt help thier chances.
there are also plenty of kids who do get enough attention blah blah blah and become drug addicts adn if necessary prostitutes. Usually mommy and daddy will set them up though.. pay for their lawyers if they get in any trouble.Quote:
Originally Posted by admedia
Life is rough.. in the wild you would probably be eaten by a bear.. .in society you end up on drugs.
OK, well, you may think that but we all know that she was as spoilt as the rest of us in ou own ways, she had all the oppurtunities the rest of us have had, my dad has personally taken myself, my older sister and my brother through all our apprenticeships in our chosen trades. Litterally, he took over a restaurant when my sister wanted to be a Front of house manager, i then became a chef. he then started his own business landscaping because thats what my brother wanted to do. we werent neglected.Quote:
Just because some one doesnt get the attention they need while groing up, doesnt mean that they will absolutly turn out bad, but it definately doesnt help thier chances.
Yea, having kids of my own... I now know... as much as you want to, as much as you try... there really is so much you can do as a parent. Eventually your kids start making choices on their own... all you can do is do you best to give them the tools an knowlege to make the right choices.Quote:
Originally Posted by TallGuyLittleCar
Good point, when i am dealing with my daughter i try to keep in mind that she is not just my child, but a complete person that will make her own decisions.Quote:
Originally Posted by CookieSnMilK
And all i can really do is hopefully give her the tools and guidance she needs to make the correct choices.
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Im slow today,
Ditto :)Quote:
Originally Posted by admedia
wow synchronicity :DQuote:
Originally Posted by random25
You see each of us can choose how we want our lives to go. Theres no telling if one rich kid will end up bad or another will. Same with the poor kids. Kids with no parents can still turn out bad or good... too many people are blaming other people for childrens choices. Whos to say that the 10 year old who had coke at school got it from their parents? it could have been given to them while walking to school... or from another kids parents... it could have some from anywhere. Sure kids can do stupid things but still why blame the parents, its not always there fault. Id like to think i have taught my son well, but theres no telling if he has listened or will remember everything i tell him is there?
haha,Quote:
Originally Posted by admedia
We must both be uber leet parents!
:)
you know in a perfict world your agrument would hold up. However, look at society today. ill an example here :
Ken Kinkle. You should all know about him. He brought around 7 guns to school one day and killed a few of his fellow classmates and then a couple teachers. To many people were quik to blaim first music then it was video games after that didnt work they turned to his mental state... well further investigation showed that his parents were told by the kid's councler not to let him have any knifes or guns. What did the parents do? They went and bought him the guns and knifes.
If the parents would have actuly listened to what the councler had to say that hole mess would have been avioded. Why? its simple parents will never in most cases take the blaim.
So i ask you this. Where were the parents while this kid was getthing these drugs? either way the parents could have avioded what happend here by being more involved with their kid.
(not saying all parents are bad... some just need to look at them self before pointing their finger at somthing or somone else.)