Hi there - I run a website for bands and musicians that, as one of the features, allows them to gather mailing list subscriptions and then send out a newsletter to all their subscribers. Just so you know what I'm using, the site is built in ColdFusion, uses an Access database, and uses the CFMAIL tag to process the sending.

The problem is this: Several of the bands on there are getting some pretty hefty mailing lists, with thounsands of people on there. In my original version of the site, when they would send the list, it would basically bomb my hosts e-mail server all at once with thousands of outbound e-mails.

Seeing that some e-mails were getting dropped and that there were some problems, I created a temporary arrangement. Basically, the site now sends those thousands of e-mails in 200-email batches. It takes time, but it works. The number of dropped e-mails has nearly disappeared.

However, this is NOT a final solution for this, and I'm trying to figure out a new way to approach this. Are there any mail server services that can take thousand e-mail drops? Are there any kind of special CF tags or coding methods that would help?

I'm pretty much against a wall here, and I'm trying to figure out a way for this to work as best as possible. I want to keep my clients happy.

Thanks for any suggestions you might have!